Who are we sacrificing to in marriage?

Posted: 24th September 2007 by ElShaddai Edwards in Uncategorized
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Oswald Chambers’ devotional My Utmost for His Highest includes the following quote today:

“The sense of sacrifice appeals readily to a young Christian. Humanly speaking, the one thing that attracts to Jesus Christ is our sense of the heroic, [but] the sense of heroic sacrifice is not good enough.”

There has been a lot written lately in blogdom about what types of relationship should exist between men and women in marriage and in the Church, primarily focusing on the passages from 1 Corinthians 11 (v3) and Ephesians 5 (vv. 21-33). Paul writes in Ephesians 5:25 that husbands are to “love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy…”

Men, how easy is it to make giving up yourself to your wife the object of your marriage!? You try to honor her by sacrificing all of your time, your resources, your energy, your interests, etc. to fulfill her desires, but in the end, it’s incomplete. You find that you’ve completely missed the mark and turned your heroic sacrifice into an idol, the false object of your marriage. Your marital relationship is distorted because you forgot to put God at the front of your sacrifice.

Christ sacrificed for us, but he did so under the direction of the will and wisdom of God. Instead of blindly giving up everything to fulfill the needs of my wife, I need to seek God’s wisdom first. I am responsible to God first, not my wife. How easy it is to distort a valid Biblical teaching and lose sight of our focal point – Screwtape would be so proud!

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