A man divided

Posted: 8th May 2008 by ElShaddai Edwards in Uncategorized

Caution: hyperbole ahead.

An unmarried man is concerned about the things of the Lord – how he may please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the things of the world – how he may please his wife – and he is divided. (1 Corinthians 7:32-34a, HCSB)

I’ve recently found myself in the awkward position of having to say “no” several times to opportunities to play with the worship band and orchestra at church. It’s not that I don’t want to play, I do. I just can’t. Either my wife is sick and needs help with the kids, or the kids are sick (they all suffer from environmental allergies that leave them with colds more often than not). Or the rehearsals fall on weekday evenings when my wife is working and schedules can’t be easily rearranged. Or… or… or…

Most recently I was asked to play this Sunday with the orchestra. However, here in the U.S., Sunday is Mother’s Day and my wife is spending the afternoon with her mom and sister, which leaves the morning for our family (including going to church). Logistically, I could slip out of the house early, play at the first service as requested, and be home before she leaves, but that leaves no time for the boys and I to honor her as Mom, and makes her solely responsible for the kids on the one morning when she should be pampered instead.

Am I divided, as Paul writes? You bet. I want to please the Lord with an offering of worship. And I want to please my wife by honoring her. Am I a heathen for putting “the things of the world”, e.g. my wife, before serving the Church?

Perhaps I should just quit serving the Church with my horn and serve my wife as I serve Christ. Oh wait, I can’t serve Christ because I’m honoring my wife. Ack!

  1. You could change your last sentence to:
    I’m honoring my wife because I serve Christ.

    You could say you’re “rightly dividing” the word of truth.